Befriend your Boyfriend after an LQ

What's more nerve-wracking than a knock-down, drag-out with your guy? The hours or daya after you've made up but before you're back to your usual level of closeness. Though no longer actively pissed, you're uncomfortably detached from each other, and worse, unsure how to get on track again.

One thing you shouldn't count on: his taking the reconnecting reins.


• ZIP YOUR LIPS
If the post-quarrel chill has him saying little besides "Please pass the salt," your instinct may be to sit him down for a talk about why he's not talking. Resist, he's not up for another heavy discussion. Instead do something fun with him.

• SUCK UP
If (and only if) the fight was truly your fault, help mend things with a small gift pr treat. Pick up the latest issue of his fave magazine or a pint of ice cream you know he'll devour.


• TRY A LITTLE TOUCHING
No, we don't mean throwing him down on the bed for makeup nooky. It's tempting to indulge in a frisky reconciliacion romp, but nonsexual physical contact actually a better fuse.


• DO YOUR OWN THING
It's hard when you're feeling insecure about your bond, but hitting the gym or meeting a gal pal can do wonders, pampering yourself will do too.

• FOCUS ON THE FUTURE
Just like how looming forward to a vacay or night-out can help you survive a long day at work, bringing up things to do as a couple eases the tension.

• Before seeing your guy post-spat, think of three things you love  about him. Your body language will automatically reflect warmth and affection rather than axiety.

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